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“He was my assistant basketball coach. I met him when I was 15. It wasn’t until my senior year – I was 17, he was 23 – that we worked together consistently enough to develop a relationship. It started towards the end of the basketball season.”
“We had started texting when he started seeing another coach that I knew. It was just chatting and joking, but eventually they stopped, and he told me he had feelings for me. I remember being over the moon because my whole team, when I was a teenager, had fallen for this guy. I told him I was a virgin and that I wouldn’t mess around with a guy who wasn’t my boyfriend – so we never had a sexual relations.
Oh, and he didn’t leave me alone after all. He contacted me periodically when I was starting college – even to the point of trying to meet me a few weeks before his WEDDING.
Only one person from this period apologized. But the worst thing is that when discussing it with a very close friend from high school who is a very committed and caring feminist, she always I said that I was mature for my age then and that it was no big deal. Sometimes I still wonder if she’s right, but I don’t think she’s right.”
—Anonymous, Washington
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