His friends understood his girlfriend’s OCD, until some of her behaviors started causing problems for the group.

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It’s really nice when someone makes accommodations for someone’s mental health. But what happens when their mental health starts to affect your mental health?

In this case, a woman was dealing with her friend’s girlfriend, who suffers from OCD, and began treating her like she was a danger to her health. In public.

The girlfriend started warning others to stay away from her, so she announced that if she had to be there, she wouldn’t go anymore.

Her friend and her girlfriend were very upset by this remark.

Read the full story below.

So, I’ll try to be brief: I have (20f) a group of friends that I’ve known since school, we don’t see each other often anymore because adulthood is chaotic, but we try to get together every two months or so.

There are about six people in this group, including Mark (22 months), who recently had a girlfriend who I’ll call Sarah (21f).

Sarah has severe OCD and has many rules about what she can and cannot tolerate, which wasn’t originally a problem.

Some of us are also neurodivergent/have conditions that require accommodations, so we adapted our outings whenever she wanted to come, because she was polite and kind.

But things quickly degenerated.

Everything was fine for a few months, until one of our other friends casually asked about my dermatitis and if it was getting better. I have contact dermatitis.

It is by no means contagious in any form, but it flares up often), Sarah heard it and considered me a “contaminated person.”

Since then she has treated me like I have the plague, she won’t touch anything I’ve touched, won’t sit near me and will make a disgusted face every time I’m around, which I thought at first, she has a disease, I don’t care what she does.

She was okay with that until…

But she started doing it to other people, such as warning people not to sit near me, and once in a restaurant she told a waiter to be careful not to touch me when he handed me my drink or he would contaminate himself and everyone he served.

At this point, me and everyone in the group are incredibly embarrassed by this, and one of our other friends even told her and Mark that she can do whatever she wants, but it’s ****** to keep telling people that.

Here’s where I could be on *******:

We were planning our next meeting and I told the group that if Sarah came I wouldn’t go, I don’t deserve to be treated like a monster for something totally out of my control and harmless to others and to be ashamed of it.

Of course, Sarah’s boyfriend wasn’t happy.

Since the group was already disturbed, we all decided that Mark was welcome, but we didn’t want Sarah there until she got over this fear.

He wasn’t online at the time, so I texted him privately, explaining that Sarah was making everyone uncomfortable and that we would prefer if she didn’t come over until she could at least not tell everyone not to touch me.

I also said we understand that while he doesn’t want to come without her, she is his girlfriend after all and he needs to support her.

Well a few hours later he exploded, called me a ******* ableist, said Sarah had seen the messages and hadn’t stopped crying then blocked us all when he saw the group agreed.

AITA?

They all handle things terribly.

What did Reddit think?

A reader shares his thoughts.

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Maybe that’s the case, but she shouldn’t think everyone has to tolerate it.

Exactly.

Another reader chimes in.

Someone shares their experience.

Of course it’s not easy having OCD. But being publicly shamed because of a skin condition isn’t easy either.

As someone who has suffered from OCD since I can remember, I agree with what one commenter said. Activating it can make it more intense.

Gently setting boundaries might have helped if everyone involved communicated better.

They all need to start talking like adults ASAP or just allow themselves to go their separate ways.